Pleasing my mother

 Tonight my mother called to complain about my father. Yet again. 

I have long suspected that my father is showing signs of alzheimer. I am not surprised by his behavior. 

I am stressed because I have always want to make my mother happy. Any signs of distress, anxiety or sadness from her caused me to feel the same. I can't cope when she has other emotions apart from anger and joy. 

My mum is just being human. She is scared and frustrated and sad seeing the deterioration of her life partner of more than 40 years. Despair that she cant do anything to stop it. She is not ready for the change, but change has started regardless.

My dad. Well, it's part of life. You grow up, grow old, become ill and eventually die. 

Like what my mum claimed : we just have to face it.